A Beloved's Journey

This is the blog post that I have been waiting to write for almost 4 years because almost 4 years ago I started this incredible, difficult, exciting journey of adoption.  It is with immense joy that I can tell you that I have been approved to adopt a little girl from the Maharashtra state in India. Bunny is coming home. Adding to that, Bunny is almost 4 years old. Yes, in the same month that I officially started this journey my daughter was born. The last few weeks have been interesting to say the least. Wendy informed me about this little girl in April. This was a referral rather than being 'matched' from CARA in India. There are children that are on the CARA portal that people can see and reserve if they are interested to know more. Being matched from India would have probably taken another year at least.  The referral came just as my home study needed to be reviewed as it had reached its two year period. This also happened to be while I was in Auckland supporting my mum th...

This is a small pondering about a common phrase people use regarding adoption.  Over this process some people who have heard my story have said 'what a lucky girl.' I understand the meaning behind this phrase and that it is meant as a compliment but I would ask that if you could please use another phrase. The reason for this is that I wouldn't say that any child who has lost their mum and dad for whatever reason is 'a lucky girl'. Yes, I understand that it is good that she no longer has to live in an orphanage and she now has a family, but it is a travesty to the human race that she got to an orphanage to begin with.  Think of a child that you know around the age of 4 or 5. Their parents die and they are adopted by a person in a far away country that look different, speak a different language and eat different food. I don't want this to sound harsh but it is important. There is nothing lucky about being an orphan. So here are some options of what you could sa...