No, I have to wait to be matched to a child. The Indian authorities make the match and then share the information with ICANZ who share it with me. I then have a couple of days to look through the information and choose whether I accept that child. I will be sent a photo (not necessary a recent one) and limited medical information. If I don’t accept the child I am put back in the queue to wait for another one.
How long will it take?
The process has already taken 22 months. Once I have been approved by the Indian Authorities the wait could be anywhere from 6 months to 5 years.
Do you go over to India at all?
Yes. I have to go over to collect her and I may need to go over one or two times before that. This depends on what the Indian Authorities ask for. When I go over to collect her my mum will have to come with me and we will have to stay for at least two weeks.
Why overseas and not NZ?
There are many reasons for this decision but the main one is that my heart and passion is for the injustice and extreme poverty in third world countries. Although there are many children in NZ who need care, the need overseas is so much greater. Not until you have experienced first hand the extreme poverty in third world countries can you see how lucky we are.
There are only seven countries that you can adopt from within New Zealand. They are India, Chile, Thailand, China, Lithuania, The Philippines, and Hong Kong. In New Zealand you can not currently adopt from any country in Africa. India is the only country that a single woman can adopt a younger child from (a younger child is between the age of 2 and 7.) Single women can adopt older children or children with medical conditions from the Philippines and Thailand.
How much does adoption cost and where does the money go?
There is no definitive amount for how much adoption costs. There are fees to pay to the organisation who works on behalf of me here in NZ (Inter-Country Adoption New Zealand) and the Indian Authorities. I have to pay legal fees in India, flights to India and visa fees. The total cost is over $20,000 not including travel, at least 2 weeks stay in India and taking a year off work (the time recommend to create secure attachment with an adopted child).
Do you get to choose the ‘type’ of child you adopt?
It's about time for an update on what has been happening in the adoption front over the past few months. I know I've been quiet and there's been reasons for that but plenty has happened since November. So, get yourself a sparkling water (or wine!) and a lovely perch in the sun (or a hot chocolate / cup of tea and a place by the fire if you're a Northern Hemisphere reader) because this is going to be a long one.
I've been wondering when I was going to have time to write this post after deciding that spring cleaning every surface of my house these holidays (including curtains) was a good idea... I'm thinking not so much any more! But after trying out some nifty gymnastic moves on Rapaki track (one foot sliding down while the other one stayed grounded) I've been told to ice it and rest. So it's a great time to fill you all in on what has been going on.
In November my adoption journey took a dramatic turn for the good and started a series of events that hav…
A year and a half ago, almost to the day (9th August 2017), I posted my forms to Oranga Tamariki to begin the process of international adoption.
Today my home study report was accepted and handed over to ICANZ (Inter-Country Adoption New Zealand).
This is a huge step and celebration in the journey, in fact one of the biggest, as it means I have been deemed acceptable to adopt from India. I now need to finalise a few documents for my dossier and then the waiting to bring Bunny home will truly begin.
A few weeks ago my exceptional cousin, Christy, took yet another photo shoot for my dossier (this was the third one) as I had learnt that no shoulders were allowed to be shown and it was best if knees weren't either.
Before the photo shoot, I trolled through Facebook trying to find photos that might be suitable to send. I found one that hid the fact that my shoulders were bare and I thought it would be a great, only to realise that the glass of wine I was holding in the centre of the fr…
Today, on this 11th September, I have finished paying off the $10,000 loan that I received late last year. I began paying this off in January and have managed to pay it off in 9 months and 8 days with God's grace, two fundraisers and some pretty epic budgeting skills. It feels good but I know the celebration will be in my next pay when that money will go to increase my savings towards adoption.
How did I celebrate? Well not with anything today but recently I bought a beautiful darker-skinned doll for Bunny and that felt like a way to celebrate. In the next week or so I will take my incredible friend, who lent me the money, out for a meal to celebrate.
And tomorrow I hop on a plane and fly to Auckland to attend the Sistas Conference and hopefully meet Lisa Harper and her daughter Missy. I'm so excited, I don't know how much sleep I will get tonight. I've been beavering away over the past few days sewing a baby blanket as they are collecting these at the conference to be …